Looking for your first sex toy but not sure where to start? We’ve got you covered with this ultimate guide.
You might be shopping as a beginner curious about toys, a couple adding some pizzazz to the bedroom, or a proud owner of your very own pleasure vehicle. Regardless of your motivation or experience level, purchasing your first toy is a fun and rewarding step towards better sex, more sexual self-care, and empowerment.
The best news is that a satisfying toy exists for every body and budget—from your basic $10 bullet to a luxurious dual-stimulation rabbit that feels like a day at the spa for your private parts.
You can easily have a lot of fun without breaking the bank. But it’s important to have a little knowledge before you buy.
In this no-judgment, no-confusion guide, we’ll cover:
- Why to try a sex toy
- Types of toys and what they do
- Choosing your first toy
- Types of materials
- Power options
- Other important details
- Recommended starter toys
Plus some other questions you might have about your first time with a toy.
Let’s jump in.
Why Would Someone Buy a Sex Toy?
Before we get into the “what” and the “how” let’s start with the “why.” And it’s really quite simple: pleasure.
Sex toys can help you to:
- Explore your own body in a safe and comfortable way
- Enhance solo sessions or add some variety to partnered play
- Learn what you like—and be better able to communicate that to partners
- Add intensity, convenience, or variety to your experiences
- Reach orgasms you didn’t know were possible (yes, really!)
Whether you’re new to masturbation or are ready to level up your solo play, a good toy is kind of like a personal trainer for your pleasure—supportive, responsive, and waiting whenever you are.
Step 1: Know What You’re Interested In
Before you open a window to a world of colorful, pulsating, rotating toys galore, spend a few minutes asking yourself these questions:
- Do I want external stimulation (clitoral or perineum)?
- Am I curious about internal stimulation (vaginal or anal)?
- Do I want something partner-friendly, solo-only, or both?
- Am I comfortable with penetration, or would I prefer something gentle?
There are no wrong answers here—just some honest reflection about your curiosity. If you are unsure, start simple and small. It’s easy to upgrade and experiment later.
Step 2: Pick a Toy Type That Matches Your Goals
We’ll break it down by the categories you may be interested in:
✨External Toys (Perfect for Beginners)
These toys focus on external stimulation of erogenous zones (clitoris, nipples, penis head, etc. ).
Bullet Vibrators: Small, discreet, and best for clit stimulation. Prices typically under $20.
Wands (Mini or Large): More powerful vibrations for external use. Rechargeable or plug-in. Popular brands include Le Wand and Magic Wand.
Suction Toys: Uses air pulses to mimic oral sex ( Womanizer , Satisfyer). Usually more expensive ($50+) but many highly recommend them.
Great for: Clit owners, external pleasure seekers, people who prefer no penetration.
🍆 Internal Toys
Toys focused on vaginal or anal insertion.
Dildos: Non-vibrating, simple, often made from silicone or glass.
Vibrators (Classic or G-spot): Adds vibrations to the internal stimulation. Curved tips can help target the G-spot.
Rabbits/Dual-Stim: Combines internal and external stimulation (shaft + clit). Popular but can feel overwhelming as a first toy.
Great for: Exploring vaginal pleasure, combining sensations, or leveling up solo sex.
🍑 Anal Toys
Toys designed with safety in mind (flared base, softer materials).
Anal Beads: Sized graduating beads that are good for beginners.
Plugs: Small to large, great for building comfort.
Vibrating Plugs: Combine sensation with fullness.
Great for: Curious explorers—start small and go slow.
🍌 Toys for Penis Owners
Strokers/Masturbators: Soft sleeves with varying texture ( Tenga Eggs , Fleshlight).
Vibrating Rings: Adds buzz for both partners.
Vibrating Strokers: Hands-free, higher-end versions.
Great for: Boosting sensation, hands-free play, and adding variety.
Step 3: Choose a Budget (and Stick to It)
You don’t need to spend $100+ on your first toy. In fact, some of the most popular toys can be purchased for under $20.
Here’s what you can expect at each price tier:
💸 Under $20
Basic bullets, finger vibes, strokers, mini plugs
Battery-powered, often made from simpler materials (ABS plastic, TPE)
Great for trying things out
💰$20–$50
Rechargeable bullets, small G-spot toys, intro anal kits
Better material (body-safe silicone), more power
Great balance of quality and affordability
💎$50–$100+
Premium suction toys, dual-motor vibes, ergonomic strokers
Brand reputation, durability, and luxury packaging
Often waterproof, quieter, backed by warranties
Don’t feel pressure to spend much if you don’t know what you want. It’s easy to start small and upgrade later.
Step 4: Pay Attention to Materials (This Matters!)
Not all toys are created equal. You want body-safe, non-toxic materials for anything you’ll insert inside your body.
The best materials:
- Medical-grade silicone: Soft, smooth, non-porous, and easy to clean.
- Borosilicate glass: Very hygienic, firm, and safe.
- Stainless steel: Sleek, solid, and easy to disinfect.
- ABS plastic: Durable and body-safe.
Try to avoid:
- Jelly rubber or “real feel” TPR/TPE: Porous and can harbor bacteria.
- Anything without clear labeling—if it smells weird, toss it.
Look for toys that are labeled phthalate-free, non-porous, and body-safe.
Step 5: Consider Power, Vibration, and Controls
- Rechargeable or battery-powered: Rechargeables are more expensive upfront, but save money in the long run.
- Quiet or powerful: Check the decibel rating if you have roommates (some vibrators are louder than you think).
- Single speed or multi-pattern: Even budget toys now have multiple settings—be sure to experiment and see what you like.
If discretion is a concern, pay attention to product noise level and if it includes a storage pouch or lock feature.
Step 6: Choose a Trusted Brand or Retailer
Stick with reputable brands known for quality and safety, like:
- Satisfyer
- LELO
- We-Vibe
- Dame
- Lovehoney
- Bellesa
- Tenga (great for penis-focused toys)
Or shop from trusted retailers:
- AdultToysForLess.com (hey, that’s us!)
- SheVibe
- Lover’s Lane
- Lovehoney
- Babeland
Amazon is OK as long as the toy is actually shipped and sold by the brand—but look out for knockoffs and mislabeled products.
Step 7: Don’t Forget Lubricant and Storage
First-time toy owner’s checklist must-haves include:
- Lube: Water-based lube is the safest for all toys. Never use silicone lube with silicone toys.
- Cleaning: Mild soap and water works great (check out our cleaning guide!)
- Storage: Use a clean pouch, not a plastic bag or drawer full of lint.
First-Time Toy Recommendations by Budget
Need a few ideas to get you started? Here’s a short list to point you in the right direction.
Budget Under $20
- Screaming O Bullet Vibe : Tiny, punchy, and great for first-timers
- Tenga Egg : A one-time-use stroker that feels amazing
- B Yours Anal Plug : Beginner-friendly, affordable, and body-safe
- Finger Vibes : Like a magic finger that won’t cramp
Budget $20–$50
- Blush Novelties Neo Plug Kit : For exploring size play
- Satisfyer 1 Next Generation : Air pulse suction toy under $40
- Le Wand Petit Bullet : Luxe mini vibe that’s powerful and rechargeable
- Tenga Flip Orb or Spinner : Textured, reusable strokers with some flair
Budget $50+
- Womanizer Liberty : Travel-friendly suction toy with rave reviews
- LELO Sona 2 : Stylish, sonic-wave clitoral stimulator
- We-Vibe Tango X : Possibly the strongest bullet in its class
- Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage : Compact, open-ended stroker for easy cleaning
Tips for Your First Time Using a Toy
- Don’t skip the lube—even if you don’t think you need it
- Set the mood: Lock the door, dim the lights, cue the playlist
- Start slow: Use the lowest setting, and explore gently
- It’s okay to laugh or stop: There’s no “right” way to feel
- Clean before and after use, even if it’s new
- If something doesn’t feel good, stop. Your body knows best.
Final Thoughts: You Deserve Pleasure (No Matter Your Budget)
Your first sex toy is the gateway to a lifetime of pleasure, confidence, and self-discovery. Whether you spend $15 or $150, the most important thing is that it’s yours and helps you feel good.
Take your time, do a little research, and listen to your instincts. You don’t need to impress anyone, follow trends, or feel intimidated by bells and whistles.
You deserve pleasure that fits your body, your vibe, and your wallet.
FAQ
Is it weird to buy a sex toy if I’ve never had one before?
Not at all! Millions of people buy their first toy every year. It’s empowering, not embarrassing.
Do I need a partner to use a toy?
Nope. Most toys are designed for solo play—but many work great with partners too.
Are cheap toys safe?
They can be! Just check the materials and make sure it’s body-safe and phthalate-free.
What if I don’t like it?
That’s okay! Finding the right toy is like dating—sometimes you try a few before finding your match.
Where should I store my toy?
Keep it dry, clean, and separate from other toys in a pouch or soft container.
